Myth #4: Emotional Christians are Shallow.

Here’s Part 4.

Try something for me.  Wherever you are right now—at your computer, or iPad or iPhone—look away from the screen.  If there’s a mirror there, all the better.  Take stock of how you feel, and then when you’re ready say this sentence:

“You seem really reasonable today.”

Now, take stock of how you feel.  OK, ignore the silliness of talking to yourself out loud.  Just notice how you feel.  How would it feel to say this to someone else?  How would it feel if someone else walked into the room and said it to you? Now try one more sentence:

“You seem really emotional today.”

Now, same as before.  How do you feel, having said that?  How would it feel to say it to someone else?  How would it feel if someone had walked in and said it to you?

I’ve done this little informal test with a a couple of different live audiences, and probably thirty or forty individuals.  So far I’ve had a unanimous response.  Everyone I’ve ever done this with says the same thing.  The first sentence—You seem really reasonable—feels like a complement.  The second sentence—You seem really emotional—feels like criticism.

The culture that we live in views being reasonable as a more elevated, more mature, more evolved state than being emotional.  Add -ism to the words and the distinction gets even more obvious. gives this definition for Rationalism: “The principle or habit of accepting reason as the supreme authority in matters of opinion, belief, or conduct.”

The definition for Emotionalism?  There are four.  Not one is positive.

  1. An excessively emotional character.
  2. Excessive appeal to emotions.
  3. A tendency to display undue emotions.
  4. Unwarranted emotions.

Rationalism is a state worth shooting for.  Emotionalism is a state that ought to be avoided, because it’s always just too much.

Does that seem fair to you?  That we can have too much emotion, but not too much reason?  My own life experience has show me that you can be a rational person and still be immature and self-centered.  You can also be an emotional person and still make wise decisions.

Often those of us who believe the Genesis creation story act like God created us rational, but sin made us emotional.  I grew up in a Christian tribe that believed this whole-heartedly (umm… whole-mindedly?)  Our faith was based on our intellectual capacity.  Our precious spiritual practices?  Memorizing scripture, debating theology, understanding and being able to communicate complicated philosophical ideas.  The more a preacher used Greek and Hebrew and addressed the issues of systematic theology, the better he (always he) was.  Even our music was intellectual.  Either it was the old hymns, remarkable for six verses of dense theology, or it was classical music, which was superior because like Math or Literature (I was told), it edified the mind.

We were wary of allowing emotionalism into our worship services.  Music that incorporated syncopation or a moving bass line was suspect, even attacked as pagan.  Preachers that addressed people’s emotional well-being were few and far between, and most of them were accused of dabbling in pop-psychology.  Charismatic churches with their emotional alter calls were condemned for leading people astray.

I stretch the truth only a little.  I know that many others experienced a formative religion much like this.  The message that I got clear as a bell was that emotions were not something to let others see.  Playing out this story has led to enormous damage in my life and the lives of the people around me.

If we take the Genesis creation story seriously, than we cannot make it say things it doesn’t.  What it does say is this:  Humanity was created in the image of God.  There is no verses that says emotions were an afterthought, or that they came around as an unfortunate result of sin.  Without that, we must assume that in some manner our emotions are also made in the image of God, and that they fulfill an important and necessary role in our lives.

In the story of the Garden of Eden, where everything was perfect, Adam and Eve had both reason and emotion.  In eternity with God, after we are perfected and made new, as best I can tell we will have both reason and emotion.

This means that thinking (or feeling) that emotional Christians just aren’t mature isn’t fair or accurate.  In fact, this belief undermines our spiritual growth and intimacy with God.  We are left, then, with this quest:  Discovering how to experience and engage our emotions in a constructive way that serves to deepen our spiritual journey, our relationship with God, and our maturity as human beings.

This post is Part 4 of a 5 part series:

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