I Quit the Culture War

It’s an election year, apparently.  I’ve noticed the sprouting yard signs and the increasing emotional urgency in political conversations.  The internets buzz with people making their case and stomping their virtual feet.

As a follower of Jesus this season makes me tired.  Everyone seems to have expectations and obligations for me; commitments that I have never signed up for.

In the course of a single week, for example, I had two different Facebook friends make essentially the same claim.  One was lamenting an action of the President that they disapproved of, commenting that they couldn’t imagine how any Christian could vote for a Democrat ever again.  My other friend, frustrated with a bill that was passed in congress, declared that it was inconceivable how anyone who took the Bible seriously could possibly vote for a Republican.

I’m told there’s a culture war on.  Also a war on Christians.  Possibly a war on women.  Certainly a war against Our Way Of Life.  As a Christian, and as a pastor, I am expected to march in this war.

Wave the flags as much as you like.  This is a war I’m not coming to.  I am officially declaring my status as a Conscientious Objector in the culture war.

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Want to Be Heard? Get a Platform.

Can They Hear You?The backyard was loud with the crazy near-chaos of my 6-year-old daughter’s birthday party.  Children running and chasing.  Balls flying.  Little voices chattering, laughing, bossing.  A crowd bouncing on the trampoline.  Jackson, the 8-month old puppy was adding his own exuberance to the noise, while the adults were chatting and laughing on the patio.  It was exactly what a birthday party should be like.

In the middle of all the noise one of the moms needed to get her son’s attention on the trampoline.  But he was across the yard on the trampoline, with all the party’s noise between them.  She called his name.  No response.  Then came the middle name.  No response.  She yelled.  She waved her arms.  But he just couldn’t hear her.

There are a lot of people who have a message acting like that mom.  They have something important or urgent to say.  They want to help, or warn, or educate.  But the noise is just too loud, and the audience they want to reach just can’t hear them.  What can they do?

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Comments?

I’ve been back and forth and up and down on the issue of comments.  When this blog was with a different host and had a different design, I had comments.  Then with the redesign, I removed them. The truth is, I have a very mixed relationship with comments on the internet.  The “bottom half” of the internet is a cesspool of yelling, selling and depersonalizing attacks.  Honestly, I don’t even read the comments anymore on most blogs that I follow.

Someone is WRONG on the Internet!

Hmmm... Maybe Romans 14 would help? (From the venerable internet comic xkcd.)

But at the same time, I’m not opposed to conversation.  Just the opposite.  I want to hear from you.  I want to understand your experience.  I want to know when my writing serves you well, and I want to know when you think I’m off track — so long as you can do that in a respectful way, open to real discussion. After hearing from a number of people who follow my blog, and the counsel of some mentors as I’m building this thing, I’ve decided to open up the comments again. So, here we go. I have a bit of anxiety about this because writing about spirituality, sometimes controversial connections to our emotional health, theology and church practice is all touchy for folks, and there are some out there who seem to live for correcting others.  And I guess, I’m just not willing to provide a forum for ego, spiritual arrogance, name-calling and all that stinks about internet comments. So, having said all of that, I unveil to you my new comment policy.  It’s adapted from Michael Hyatt’s blog and seems like a clear and wise set of standards.  We will adapt, adopt and improve as things develop around here.  Please read the new Comment Policy before commenting. Looking forward to hearing from you and interacting more. M.  

Myth #5: Ignore Your Emotions and They Will Just Go Away

This post is Part 5 of a 5 part series:

Myth #1: God’s Not Emotional

Myth #2: Emotions Will Lead You Astray

Myth #3: Emotions Aren’t Spiritual

Myth #4: Emotional Christians Are Shallow Christians

And now onto the last myth in this series:  Myth #5.  Ignore your emotions and they will just go away.

This is the myth that does the most damage.  The body count is enormous—marriages ended, relationships broken, churches split and destroyed—all because people with influence were unwilling to stop and look at the uncomfortable emotions they are feeling.

It’s no mystery why this happens.  Our culture has trained us that emotions aren’t trust-worthy.  Men have been told since boyhood that showing emotions makes them weak.  It only gets worse if you’re a Christian:  If you believe that emotions aren’t Godly, that all they do is lead you into sin, that showing emotion makes you shallow, then what choice do you have?

So, we practice denial.  We change the subject.  We take antacids for the clenching in our gut and anti-depressants for the sadness in our spirits.  We treat our negative emotions like the symptoms of a cold, medicating them into suppression so that we can get on with our lives.

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Myth #4: Emotional Christians are Shallow.

This post is Part 4 of a 5 part series:

Myth #1: God’s Not Emotional

Myth #2: Emotions Will Lead You Astray

Myth #3: Emotions Aren’t Spiritual

Myth #5: Ignore Your Emotions and They Will Just Go Away

Here’s Part 4.

Try something for me.  Wherever you are right now—at your computer, or iPad or iPhone—look away from the screen.  If there’s a mirror there, all the better.  Take stock of how you feel, and then when you’re ready say this sentence:

“You seem really reasonable today.”

Now, take stock of how you feel.  OK, ignore the silliness of talking to yourself out loud.  Just notice how you feel.  How would it feel to say this to someone else?  How would it feel if someone else walked into the room and said it to you?

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Myth #3: Emotions Aren’t Spiritual

This post is Part 3 of a 5 part series:

Myth #1: God’s Not Emotional

Myth #2: Emotions Will Lead You Astray

Myth #4: Emotional Christians are Shallow Christians

Myth #5: Ignore Your Emotions and They Will Just Go Away


Now, onto Myth #3:  Emotions Aren’t Spiritual.

There is one particular story in the life of Jesus that was really uncomfortable for the little church I grew up in. It’s found in every one of the Gospels, so it wasn’t possible to ignore. Something about the story was powerful and important, but something else was a bit uncomfortable. The story? Jesus throwing a temper tantrum in the temple, ejecting the merchants and kicking over the table. OK… maybe it wasn’t a temper tantrum.

Are you uncomfortable yet?

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If you feel like God, You will do justice.

I attended The Justice Conference in Portland a week ago.  This is part 2 of my reflections.  You can catch up on part 1 (Love, Justice & the Problem of Indifferent Christians) here.

Part 2: If You Feel Like God, You Will Do Justice.

As I sat through speaker after speaker at the conference, one question kept surfacing for me.  If the need is this demonstrably urgent, and the Bible is so plainly clear about God’s heart for the cause of the needy, why isn’t there a flood of Christians giving their time, talents, and resources?

Francis Chan, the closing speaker, put it in these terms.  There are 800,000 children in the American foster system, children in desperate need of homes and love.  There are more than 2,000,000 people in America who self-identify as Christians.  How can those two numbers co-exist?  How is that statistic even possible?

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Love, Justice & the Problem of Indifferent Christians.

Part 1:  

Digesting the Justice Conference

I spent Friday evening and all day Saturday at the Justice Conference, here in Portland.  It was amazing.  Like conferences often are, it was a fire hose of information.  When I left the conference late Saturday night, I was over-full.  I wanted to reflect, to not open my mouth for weeks.  The friend I rode with felt the same and we made the drive home mostly in silence.  At one and the same time I was overwhelmed by the need I had encountered, as well as excited and motivated to see how I and my family could make a difference.  I felt like I could journal for days without even scratching the surface.

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Myth #2: Emotions Will Lead You Astray.

This post is Part 2 of a 5 part series:

Myth #1: God’s Not Emotional

Myth #3: Emotions Aren’t Spiritual

Myth #4: Emotional Christians are Shallow Christians

Myth #5: Ignore Your Emotions and They Will Just Go Away

Here’s Part 2:

“Whatever you do, don’t make an emotional decision!”  How many times have you heard that advice?  It sounds wise.  After all, how many stories do we know of people who followed their emotions right off a cliff?  We know of people who lost everything following anger or lust or greed.  In a moment, emotions spike with intensity and you act, often in a ways that are short-sighted, sometimes even self-destructive.

In an effort to protect people from making life-altering bad decisions, parents, teachers, pastors and counselors, have given this advice that has become “common sense.”  At best the emotion clouds the issue.  At worst, it will lead you in the wrong decision.  And if you’re a Christian, it’s sure to lead you into sin.

Turns out none of this is true.

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Myth #1: God’s Not Emotional.

This post is Part 1 of a 5 part series:

Myth #2: Emotions Will Lead You Astray

Myth #3: Emotions Aren’t Spiritual

Myth #4: Emotional Christians are Shallow Christians

Myth #5: Ignore Your Emotions and They Will Just Go Away

Here’s Part 1:

I remember seeing a Jesus movie as a kid, sometime in the middle seventies.  The Jesus in that film was haunting.  His long, blond hair hung limp down the sides of his gaunt face, framing piercing blue eyes that could see, I imagined, right into your heart.  He spoke quietly.  His words were delivered in succinct, crafted sentences with all the weight that one would have if they knew that their every word was scripture and would be written down for all to read.  He was aloof, above the problems of the dirty, hardscrabble peasants flocking around him.  He seemed to my young eyes distant and unmoved.

But if Jesus was aloof, that was an improvement over his Father.  At least Jesus had a tangible body and made the effort to walk in sandals on our earth, But God was far more removed.  In my imagination, I saw an over-large old man, faceless and yet somehow with a giant white beard.  He was “robed in power and majesty,” whatever that meant.  He was the creator who sustained the universe.  He was able, with a mind more powerful than all the computers and all the networks in the world, to watch over everyone, hear every prayer, consider every sparrow, and keep all the planets and galaxies spinning safely.  This God was something completely alien to me…

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